Winning At Relationships I

Premium course Week 1 Lesson 1: Preview of Week 1

Welcome to Winning At Relationships Mastery! In this video, we'll give you a snapshot of the first week's lessons which include the science on why relationships are so important for your well-being and our 6 pillars of quality relationships. This will lay the foundation for the relationship-transforming concepts and tools that follow in coming weeks.

Premium course Week 1 Lesson 2: The WHY of Relationships

In this lesson, we’ll dive into the science behind why relationships matter. When you think about it, relationships touch every part of our lives. In fact, you’re never not in a relationship—whether it’s with a partner, family member, friend, coworker, or even yourself. That’s why it’s so important to understand not only how relationships bring joy, meaning, and purpose—but also how they directly impact your physical and mental health.

Premium course Week 1 Lesson 3: The 6 Pillars of Quality Relationships

Research shows that having strong social connections can ease stress, anxiety, and depression. It can increase a sense of security, comfort, feelings of self worth, and joy. It can even increase your longevity. In this video we're going to share 6 crucial pillars that are foundational to successful relationships. We’ll be referring to them throughout the course. We’ll also give you practice in learning how to apply them in your marriage and other relationships.

Premium course Week 1 Bonus Practicum

Be sure to watch this practicum video. It’s designed to help you apply what you’ve learned through interactive exercises that deepen understanding and make the tools even more practical and memorable.

Premium course Bonus 1 - Growth Mindset

Start your WARM journey with the mindset that will help you learn and grow the most. In this short bonus lesson, you’ll discover how a growth mindset transforms challenges into opportunities, feedback into fuel, and personality limitations into stepping stones. You’ll gain the perspective you need to maximize your learning in the course and strengthen your relationships from the inside out.

Premium course Bonus 2 - Emotional Intelligence

Discover the four core skills of Emotional Intelligence—Self-Awareness, Social Awareness, Self-Management, and Relationship Management—and how to apply them throughout the WARM course. This short bonus lesson will help you assess and strengthen your EQ so you can maximize your learning, communicate more effectively, and create stronger, more fulfilling relationships as you move through each module.

Premium course Bonus 3 - Self and Others Awareness

Learn how to better understand yourself and those around you with the Self-Awareness Wheel, Others-Awareness Wheel. In this short bonus lesson, you’ll discover how self awareness and others awareness, self-compassion, and intentional care can strengthen emotional intelligence, deepen empathy, and help you respond with greater understanding—maximizing your relationship growth in the WARM course.

Premium course Week 2 Lesson 1: Preview of Week 2

This week, we’ll explore what makes you uniquely you—and what makes others uniquely them. You’ll learn about innate personality traits, core motivations, and the filters shaped by life experiences. We’ll also look at the strengths you can intentionally develop in yourself and begin to recognize and appreciate in those around you.

Premium course Week 2 Video 2: Social Awareness - Getting Yourself

In this lesson, we’ll focus on strengthening your self-awareness and growing your emotional intelligence—two essential skills for bringing your best self to every relationship. You’ll also be introduced to Motive Based Training, a proven 30-year framework for relationship success that will help you recognize and appreciate strengths while showing empathy and compassion for limitations—in both yourself and others. These insights are foundational for building emotional intelligence and creating high-quality, meaningful connections.

Premium course Week 2 Video 3: Personality Filters

In this lesson, we explore the concept of filters—the mental lenses shaped by your life experiences, upbringing, and environment. These filters don’t change your innate personality, but they can strongly influence how you see the world and how you show up in relationships. Just like a pair of glasses can sharpen or distort your vision, filters can enhance or cloud your natural traits. By understanding what’s innate to you, you’ll become more aware of the filters you’ve developed—and how they may be helping or hindering your personal growth and connection with others.

Premium course Week 2 Video 4: The Strengths Continuum

In this lesson, we introduce a concept we call the Strengths Continuum. It’s all about learning to operate in the healthy zone of your innate personality—using your strengths in balanced, meaningful ways. You’ll learn how strengths can be underused, overused, or misapplied, and how these patterns can move you away from your best self. You’ll also discover that what may appear as a weakness is often just a strength being expressed in an unhelpful way. Mastering this continuum is a powerful step toward greater self-awareness, personal growth, and relational success—and it's one of our favorite tools to teach.

Premium course Week 2 Video 5: Red Personality Types

In this lesson, we’ll explore the Red personality type—individuals who are motivated by power, which simply means they are driven to move from point A to point B as efficiently as possible. Reds are known for their strong determination, goal-oriented mindset, and ability to get things done. They are often the movers and shakers of society.

Premium course Week 2 Video 6: Blue Personality Types

In this lesson, we’ll explore the Blue personality type—individuals who are deeply motivated by connection. Blues are people-oriented, compassionate, and tend to lead with their heart. They care about doing what’s right, value meaningful relationships, and strive for excellence in all they do. Whether you identify as a Blue or have someone close to you who does, you’ll enjoy gaining a deeper understanding of this personality type and the strengths it brings to relationships and everyday life.

Premium course Week 2 Video 7: White Personality Types

In this lesson, we’ll explore the White personality type—individuals whose core motive is peace. Whites value independence, respond best to kindness, and tend to approach life with calm logic and quiet strength. Task-oriented and thoughtful, they bring a sense of gentle dignity to their relationships and environments. As you learn more about White personalities, you’ll come to appreciate the unique and peaceful presence they offer—and how they model grace under pressure in a world that often moves too fast.

Premium course Week 2 Video 8: Yellow Personality Types

In this lesson, we’ll explore the Yellow personality type—individuals whose core motive is fun. Yellows are enthusiastic, playful, and full of positive energy. They thrive on adventure, connection, and shared experiences, often bringing joy and optimism wherever they go. As you learn more about Yellow personalities, you’ll gain a deeper appreciation for their ability to uplift others, inspire creativity, and make everyday life more enjoyable. Whether you are a Yellow or love someone who is, this lesson will help you better understand their unique spark and how to value it in relationships.

Premium course Week 3 Video 1: Preview of Week 3

In this module, you'll Learn about your unique personality type, with its accompanying motive as well as all of the other personality types and the motives that drive the thoughts and behaviors of each personality. This knowledge will help you create healthy and successful relationships.

Premium course Week 3 Video 2: Blended Personalities Intro & Red Blends

This lesson explores how personality blends are formed by combining a primary and secondary color, creating 16 unique styles. You’ll take a closer look at the Red personality and see how each secondary “accent” color influences its traits—for better or for worse. By the end of this lesson, you’ll have a clearer understanding of how blended personalities work. This will help you fine-tune your self-awareness, plus you’ll be able to better understand and build better relationships with others who may have a Red-blend, power-oriented personality.

Premium course Week 3 Video 3: Blended Personalities - Blue Blends

In this module, we’ll take a closer look at the Blue personality and see how each secondary “accent” color influences its traits—for better or for worse. By the end of this lesson, you’ll have a clearer understanding of Blue personalities and their various blends. This will help you fine-tune your self-awareness, plus you’ll be able to better understand and build better relationships with others who may have a Blue-blend, intimacy and connection-oriented personality.

Premium course Week 3 Video 4: Blended Personalities - White Blends

In this lesson, we’ll take a closer look at the White personality and see how each secondary “accent” color influences its traits—for better or for worse. By the end of this lesson, you’ll have a clearer understanding of White personalities and their various blends. This will help you fine-tune your self-awareness, plus you’ll be able to better understand and build better relationships with others who may have a White-blend, Peace-oriented personality.

Premium course Week 3 Video 5: Blended Personalities - Yellow Blends

In this lesson, we’ll take a closer look at the Yellow personality and see how each secondary “accent” color influences its traits—for better or for worse. By the end of this lesson, you’ll have a clearer understanding of Yellow personalities and their various blends. This will help you fine-tune your self-awareness, plus you’ll be able to better understand and build better relationships with others who may have a Yellow-blend, Fun-oriented personality.

Premium course Week 3 Video 6: Cultivating Emotional Intelligence - Self Managements

In this lesson, we explore two essential pillars of Emotional Intelligence: self-awareness and self-management. These skills empower you to recognize and regulate your emotions—even in high-stress situations. When you develop strong self-management, you're better equipped to make balanced, values-driven decisions and respond to life with greater integrity and adaptability.

Premium course Week 3 Video 7: 100% Responsibility

In this lesson, we focus on the power of taking 100% responsibility for your role in relationships—a principle that significantly increases your chances of long-term success. Choosing ownership, even during challenges, keeps your relationships moving forward with purpose and integrity. You’ll also learn how to let go of excuses and blame, and instead adopt a mindset that fosters growth, accountability, and connection.

Premium course Week 3 Video 8: Healthy vs Unhealthy Personality Types

In this lesson, you'll explore four personality categories— Charactered, Healthy, Unhealthy, and Dysfunctional—and learn how the choices you make shape your personal growth. You’ll discover how to celebrate your strengths, stretch toward new strengths, and begin replacing unhelpful patterns with traits that reflect a Charactered, growth-minded version of you.

Premium course Week 3 Video 9: Avoiding Inhibiting Behaviors

In this lesson, we explore common inhibiting behaviors—or “personality traps”—that each personality type may struggle with. These patterns can keep you stuck, strain relationships, and limit personal growth. You’ll learn how to recognize and weed out these limiting tendencies, while strengthening your emotional intelligence by developing character traits beyond your natural personality. With a growth mindset, you can rise above your default reactions and consistently show up as the best version of yourself—in relationships and in life.

Premium course Week 3: Bonus Practicum

In this bonus video, you’ll dive into interactive activities to apply what you've learned about emotional intelligence and personality growth. We’ll explore how your secondary color shapes your core type, identify healthy vs. unhealthy behaviors, and introduce simple strategies like the One Push-Up Method to build character and overcome limitations. You’ll also learn what others naturally admire about your strengths—and how to celebrate and develop new ones.

Premium course Bonus: From Conflict to Connection - Introductory Lesson

Conflict isn’t the problem—contention is. In this bonus module, Rick and Teresa Starr show you how to turn everyday conflict into deeper connection using Motive-Based Training. Through relatable examples, humor, and practical tools, you’ll learn how to: 1. Reframe conflict as a growth opportunity 2. Avoid the trap of silent resentment 3. Understand each other’s core needs 4. Build empathy and trust through healthy communication

Premium course Bonus: From Conflict to Connection - Video 1

Do you ever argue over small things—like dishes or weekend plans? It’s usually not about the task—it’s about misunderstood needs and differences in personality. In this lesson, Rick and Teresa show how Motive-Based Training helps you: 1. Understand what’s really behind recurring conflict 2. Recognize the needs of each personality type (Red, Blue, White, Yellow) 3. Use empathy to turn frustration into connection. This lesson includes fun role plays, real-life examples, and a reflection activity to help you better understand your partner—and yourself.

Premium course Bonus: From Conflict to Connection - Video 2

In this lesson, Rick and Teresa show you how to turn emotional disconnection into deeper connection—by understanding what your partner truly needs in conflict. Using Motive-Based Training and the four core personality types (Red, Blue, White, Yellow), you’ll learn how to “recalculate” your reactions and repair with compassion. You’ll discover: 1. How each personality handles conflict—and what they need most 2. Practical reset tools for repairing trust and preventing escalation 3. How to create a shared language for reconnecting when things get tense This lesson includes role plays, a calming “reset” tool, and a quick guide to the top 12 conflict resolution strategies that work with any personality type.

Premium course Week 4 Video 1: Preview of Week 4

In this module, we’ll explore the social awareness side of Emotional Intelligence. You’ll learn how to better understand the needs, wants, and personalities of others, and how to respond with compassion—creating more peace, connection, and emotional balance in your relationships.

Premium course Week 4 Video 2: Social Awareness - Getting Others

Research shows that empathy—the ability to truly care about and connect with others—is declining, often due to increased social isolation and inward focus. In this lesson, you’ll discover why empathy matters, how social awareness can be developed, and how strengthening these skills will lead to more meaningful, connected, and fulfilling relationships.

Premium course Week 4 Video 3: Red Personality Needs & Wants

Reds are driven by a deep desire to be respected, seen as competent, and admired for their practical minds and leadership abilities. In this lesson, you’ll learn what Reds truly need to thrive in relationships, work, and life—and how recognizing these core drivers can help you connect more effectively with the Reds around you.

Premium course Week 4 Video 4: Blue Personality Needs & Wants

Blues value connection, sincerity, and emotional depth, and they thrive when they feel understood, appreciated, and morally aligned with those around them. In this lesson, we’ll explore the inner world of the Blue personality so you can better support their emotional needs and strengthen your relationships with them.

Premium course Week 4 Video 5: White Personality Needs & Wants

Whites crave peace, kindness, and personal space, and they feel safest in relationships where they’re not pressured but gently invited to engage. In this lesson, you’ll discover how to honor the calm, quiet strength of a White personality and how meeting their core needs can bring out their best in both personal and professional settings.

Premium course Week 4 Video 6: Yellow Personality Needs & Wants

Yellows are fueled by fun, freedom, and positive connection—they need to feel seen, included, and free to express their playful, creative selves. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to create an environment that supports a Yellow’s enthusiasm and joy while also helping them stay grounded in meaningful relationships.

Premium course Week 4 Video 7: How Personalities Engage In Life

In addition to understanding each personality’s core needs and wants, it’s equally important to recognize how they respond to stress, manage time, communicate, work, parent, and express emotions. In this lesson, you’ll gain a deeper, more compassionate understanding of how Reds, Blues, Whites, and Yellows show up in everyday life so you can interact more effectively, build stronger relationships, and extend compassion when it's needed most.

Premium course Week 5 Video 1: Preview of Week 5

In this video, we’ll preview what’s ahead in Module 5—your guide to managing relationships with greater emotional intelligence. You’ll get a sneak peek into how learning to speak others’ personality language, valuing their strengths, and navigating differences can strengthen your connections. We’ll also introduce the dos and don’ts for each personality type and explore how core behaviors shape healthy interaction.

Premium course Week 5 Lesson 2: Relationship Management - Get Connected

In this video, we explore what it means to build strong relationship management skills—like effective communication, meaningful connection, conflict resolution, and the ability to lead and inspire. You’ll also learn practical tips for showing greater respect for the unique needs and wants of each personality type, helping you deepen trust and connection in every relationship.

Premium course Week 5 Lesson 3: How Personalities Interact With Each Other

This fun and engaging lesson explores how different personality types interact in relationships—especially in couples. You'll learn how to recognize the unique strengths, challenges, and synergy in each personality pairing. We’ll break down the traits, strengths, and limitations of every combination, offer tips for building connection, and highlight potential conflict areas to watch out for. You’ll also discover how to leverage the powerful, complementary strengths within your relationship to create lasting success.

Premium course Week 5 Lesson 4: Developing Positive Connections - Do's and Don't's

In this lesson, you’ll learn practical do’s and don’ts to help you connect more effectively with each personality type. Discover how to meet their unique needs and wants, and get simple tips for remembering what matters most to them—so you can build stronger, more respectful relationships

Premium course Week 5 Lesson 5: Building on Competencies

Get ready for a fun, game-show-style lesson! In this video, we’ll teach you how to build positive connection and work more effectively with each personality type—at home and in the workplace. You’ll learn how to speak their language, honor their needs and wants, and understand their communication, conflict, leadership, and management styles. Mastering these relationship competencies will help you grow in emotional intelligence, improve collaboration, and strengthen connection. It’s the key to greater productivity, growth, and meaningful relationships.

Premium course Week 5 Lesson 7: Practicum

In this engaging practicum bonus video, you and your partner will participate in interactive activities designed to strengthen connection and improve relationship management. You’ll explore three guiding principles for a stronger marriage, practice a simple question-based strategy for resolving conflict, and gain insights into how different personalities interact—especially under stress. We’ll include fun quizzes on how personalities engage with life, a refresher on do’s and don’ts, and practical tools for improving communication, parenting, and emotional connection. You’ll also learn to identify your unique strengths and limitations as a couple and apply the GROW-OP goal-setting framework to set clear, actionable couple goals tailored to your personality pairing.

Premium course Week 6 Lesson 1: Preview of Week 6

This week, we’re exploring how improving your parenting can actually strengthen your marriage. While it may seem like a detour, understanding how your parenting styles—and your children's personalities—interact can eliminate one of the most common wedges that drives couples apart. In this lesson, you’ll learn how to apply personality insights to your parenting, create a unified front with your spouse, and make sure your children’s differences don’t divide you—but instead become a powerful tool for family harmony and deeper connection.

Premium course Week 6 Lesson 2: Colors and Kids - Born Unique

This powerful lesson is about raising emotionally intelligent kids by understanding their personality and driving core motives. Emotional intelligence isn’t something we’re just born with—it’s a skill-set that can be learned and nurtured over time, and teaching it to your children is one of the greatest gifts you can give them. In this lesson, you’ll learn how each child’s unique core motive—whether it’s power, intimacy, peace, or fun—shapes their behavior, and how you and your spouse can stay united in honoring your children’s strengths, supporting their needs, and creating a more peaceful, connected home.

Premium course Week 6 Lesson 3: Red Parents & Thier Kids

In this video, we explore how Red parents—those driven by power—interact with their children's unique personalities. As a natural leader, you set high standards and expect results, but learning to understand your child’s core motive will deepen connection and improve your influence. In this lesson, you’ll discover how to adapt your leadership style to meet the needs of each personality type while maintaining respect and harmony at home.

Premium course Week 6 Lesson 4: Blue Parents & Thier Kids

As a Blue, you value connection deeply and nurture your family with empathy, loyalty, and heartfelt dedication. In this video, you’ll learn how to avoid the common parenting pitfalls of guilt and perfectionism while adapting your compassionate nature to support each child’s core motive—whether they seek power, peace, fun, or connection like you do. Understanding these differences will help you create a more emotionally attuned and harmonious home.

Premium course Week 6 Lesson 5: White Parents & Thier Kids

This lesson is for White parents—those with a driving core motive of peace—and how they interact with their children’s unique personalities. As a White parent, your calm, kind, and accepting nature creates a peaceful foundation for your family. In this video, you’ll learn how to maintain that peace while also setting healthy boundaries, expressing your voice, and adapting your parenting to meet the needs of children with different motives. With a little intention, your steady presence can both support and empower every child in your home.

Premium course Week 6 Lesson 6: Yellow Parents & Thier Kids

This lesson is for the Yellow parents—those with a driving core motive of fun—and how they connect with their children’s unique personalities. As a Yellow parent, your energy, optimism, and playful spirit bring joy to your family, but not every child shares your same pace or need for spontaneity. In this video, you’ll learn how to balance fun with structure, honor your children's differing needs, and stay consistent in your role as the parent. When you lead with joy and follow through with love, your home becomes a place of connection, laughter, and growth.

Premium course Week 7 Lesson 1: Preview of Week 7

Welcome to your final week of Winning at Relationships Mastery! In this quick preview lesson, we’ll give you a sneak peek at what’s ahead. You’ll get an intro to some of the Motive-Based tools and strategies we’ll be using to boost your emotional intelligence and help you apply everything you’ve learned to real-life relationships—whether at home, at work, or in your day-to-day interactions. Let’s get ready to bring it all together!

Premium course Week 7 Lesson 2: Discerning Personality Types

Learn how to spot nonverbal cues and behavior patterns that reveal someone’s personality type and core motive. This lesson gives you simple tools to better understand how people act under stress, make decisions, and express emotions—so you can build stronger, more connected relationships. A quick-reference guide is included to help you remember what you’ve learned.

Premium course Week 7 Lesson 3: Nonverbal Cues To Personality Types

This lesson dives into nonverbal behaviors and body language to help you better understand where people are coming from and what drives them. You’ll learn how to read personality types through physical cues, deepen your empathy, and build stronger connections. We’ll also explore common career paths associated with each personality type to give you even more insight.

Premium course Week 7 Lesson 4: Why Each Color Needs Other Colors

In this lesson, you’ll explore a visual diagram that shows how different personality types relate—some are complementary, others are opposites—and how those differences can actually strengthen our relationships. We’ll unpack why each personality color needs the others to grow and become more well-rounded and charactered. It’s a powerful reminder that we all have something valuable to offer—and something to learn. When we truly appreciate our differences, we help each other become the best version of ourselves.

Premium course Week 7 Lesson 5: Life Pointers And Walking The Path Of Others

In this lesson, you’ll get practical tips—“Life Pointers”—for connecting with each personality type, so you can nurture stronger relationships with all four colors. You’ll also learn how to “Walk the Path of Others” by seeing life through their lens, building empathy in your home, workplace, and community. To support your learning, we’ve included a quick reference guide and a reflective WinSheet to help you apply what you’ve learned and strengthen your real-life relationships.

Premium course Week 7 : Practicum

Empathy is the cornerstone of every strong relationship—and in this practicum, you'll learn how to put it into practice. Using the TAPS model (Tools + Application + Practice = Skills, which then create stronger relationships), we’ll guide you through practical steps to help you build empathy-driven connection skills. You’ll explore the three types of empathy—cognitive, emotional, and compassionate—and learn how to apply them in real-life relationship moments, especially in marriage. We’ll walk through specific scenarios to show how Motive-Based Training strengthens understanding and helps create win-win outcomes. You’ll also engage in simple awareness exercises designed to help you lean into your relationships with greater compassion, emotional intelligence, and heart.

Premium course Week 7 Lesson 6: Wrapping It Up & Moving Forward

This final lesson offers a quick review of the key concepts from Winning at Relationships Mastery—including core motives, needs and wants, behavior patterns, and your Red and Green Toolbox tools for building healthier, more connected relationships.You’ll also get a sneak peek at what’s next: Winning at Relationships Mastery 2 – WARM Connections, where we’ll take your relationship skills even deeper.